Yet as a working mom, I was incredibly busy and I put everyone’s needs ahead of my own. As a result, I squeezed in an occasional workout (although my current definition of a workout is vastly different than what I did then!) and my diet consisted of fast food, my kid’s left-overs and consistently poor food choices. I tried every diet and did great…for 2 – 3 days, then the excitement would wear off, my hectic schedule would take control and would go back to my poor choices and lack of planning.

Thank you so much for sharing this again! I am getting married in a little over a year and this past weekend I bought my dress. I knew I wasn’t going to be jumping on the fitness and diet train for my engagement but once I was dress shopping I could hear all the voices in my head pushing me to try and change my body. It’s difficult in the moment but I try to think of the big picture and like you said I want to look back and recognize myself in the photos and remember the good times not remember dieting and pushing myself. It’s so nice to hear someone else speaking about NOT wanting to change their body for their big day because I feel like I’m in the minority!


Q: I have more than a year to go before marrying my amazing fiancé, but I recently went bridal shopping and bought my dream dress—a silk crepe fit and flare that shows off my curvy, hourglass shape. The problem? I’ve struggled with negative body image in the past, and while I’ve gotten comfortable with the extra pounds over the last few years, I’d like to focus on eating healthier and toning up to look and feel my best on the “biggest day of our lives.” I just can’t get over feeling like I’m succumbing to the patriarchy and constant pressure to be smaller. I’m setting realistic expectations for myself and want to achieve my modest goals in a healthy way, but I feel like I should just be happy with the way my body looks, however it looks. Is it anti-feminist to set a weight-loss goal for my wedding?

The term 'fat burner' is used to describe nutrition supplements that are claimed to acutely increase fat metabolism or energy expenditure, impair fat absorption, increase weight loss, increase fat oxidation during exercise, or somehow cause long-term adaptations that promote fat metabolism. Often, these supplements contain a number of ingredients, each with its own proposed mechanism of action and it is often claimed that the combination of these substances will have additive effects. The list of supplements that are claimed to increase or improve fat metabolism is long; the most popular supplements being caffeine, L-carnitine, green tea, conjugated linoleic acid (CLA), forskolin, chromium, Yohimbe, Glucomannon and Raspberry Ketones to name just a few.  We will cover some of these in this article but first lets me explain 2 terms that are often associated with fat loss or weight loss and fat burners.
Visceral fat, commonly known as belly fat, is the layer of fat below the muscles of your abdomen. Due to its crucial location surrounding many of your vital organs, belly fat supplies a constant source of energy but also exposes the body to harmful toxins and hormones. When you have too many fat cells or your fat cells get too large, they can overproduce toxins that increase your risk for chronic inflammation, diabetes, heart disease and cancer. This is why belly fat can be more dangerous than subcutaneous fat—or the outer layer of fat that you can pinch with your fingers. That said, the reason you're having trouble buttoning your pants may not be visceral fat: what we're calling "belly fat" these days could be bloating or water retention rather than a fat buildup. Read on for steps you can take to beat the bulge.
But just because belly fat comes off a bit more easily doesn’t make it less dangerous. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. “Belly fat is unfortunately the most dangerous location to store fat,” says Dr. Cheskin. Because belly fat—also known as visceral fat, or the deep abdominal fat that surrounds your organs—is more temporary, it’s more active in terms of circulating in the bloodstream. That means it’s likely to raise the amount of fat in your blood (known as blood lipid levels) and increase your blood sugar levels, which as a result raises your risk of heart disease and type 2 diabetes.
Many women have trouble sleeping during menopause due to hot flashes, night sweats, stress and the other fun stuff that goes along with low estrogen levels.  Migraines anyone??  The bummer is poor sleep is linked to hunger and weight gain because of two more hormones:  ghrelin (the “feed me” hormone) and leptin (the “I’m full” hormone).  Here’s a short blog I wrote on that topic.  If you’re sleep deprived, these hormones get out of whack.
If you were very active in your younger years, you may have had some injuries.  Like a spicy pepperoni pizza does after dinner, those injuries from your carefree days can come back to haunt you.  These ghosts of injuries past show up in the form of early arthritis, bone spurs, tighter muscles, pinched nerves, etc.  After our 30’s, new injuries also take longer heal.  No wonder we slow down.
When it came to starting a wedding diet, I procastinated. Hard. In fact, a month before the big day I went on a work trip to Morocco and Paris where I ate all of the bread, butter, and chocolate my appetite desired (as one does). Which is all part of the how I found myself muffin-topping over the sides of my strapless Reem Acra gown (pictured, top left) at my last fitting, just two weeks before I was supposed to walk down the aisle.
I was a vegan for ten years before I started eating meat again recently due to low energy and a few health issues. I started with bone broths and putting those in my beans (that I was soaking, sprouting and 2x boiling). Then I moved to eggs. I also found a good source for raw milk and made my own kefir. My body loved all of these things and my energy
Weight loss may play a big role in your overall well-being and your ability to age well. When you go in for your annual check-up or before you start a diet, talk to your healthcare provider about how your weight impacts your risk for certain conditions such as heart disease, type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, and cancer. Then find out if weight loss might decrease your risk or improve your health.
Here's what I consumed for breakfast on my wedding day: I had the antioxidant yogurt and seed bowl as well as black coffee; for lunch I ate a simple salad with grilled chicken provided by my venue; and for snack, I went with a GoMacro bar. After the ceremony, my husband and I sat in a separate room and ate every single appetizer (including pork buns, pulled BBQ chicken, mini grilled cheese sandwiches, and more!) and drank champagne. Diet. Over. As the evening went on, I enjoyed the goat cheese salad (CHEESE!), the short rib and sweet potato entree, wedding cake, homemade cookies, and apple cider donuts. There was pizza at our afterparty. I ate that, too.
Thermogenesis is a metabolic process during which your body burns calories to produce heat. Several factors induce thermogenesis in your body including exercise, diet and environmental temperature. Thermogenesis can promote weight loss because it increases your body's calorie burn. Although inducing thermogenesis can help you burn more calories, a low-calorie diet and regular physical activity are the best ways for you to lose body weight
‘Lastly, if your nutrition is on point but you still have excess tummy fat, then you need to look at your training. There’s a real craze for high-intensity workouts and really pushing yourself at the moment, but training is a stress on the body, and if you’re not giving it the tools to manage that stress and recover from it, then it can lead things like excess belly fat.
For most people, 4 to 5 ounces of protein, 1/2 to 1 cup of whole grains and 1 cup of watery, fibrous vegetables at meals will prompt weight loss. For example, have grilled chicken with brown rice and green beans; eggs with peppers, spinach and whole-wheat toast; roast pork tenderloin with baked sweet potato and a green salad; or broiled tilapia with quinoa and asparagus. Skip sugary, fatty sauces and dressings. Flavor foods with herbs, spices, citrus juice and vinegar.
Radiant skin, nails, hair. When you add healthy fruits and veggies to your diet, you provide essential nutrients for healthy skin, healthy-looking hair and a healthier body. Of course, you could neglect these nutrients and go on a quick fix fad diet, but who wants to look gaunt and pale in their wedding photos? A well-rounded diet will help you look luscious on your big day.
I’m not going to spell out an exact eating plan, as everyone will have their own particular requirements. But I will list a few general guidelines to help you devise your own plan. These are generalized suggestions, and may not be suited for every individual over 40, but they are the key points that I’ve found helpful throughout my time north of 40:
The popular "flat belly diets"embrace much of the wisdom found in eating a Mediterranean diet, which helps everything from brain health to hearth health. The basic premise for both diets is eat foods rich in monosaturated fatty acids (MUFA) that may help reduce your belly fat storage. MUFA-rich foods include olive oil, nuts and seeds, avocodos, and fish. Eating yogurt regularly has also been found to be helpful in reducing belly fat.

One thing a fat burner won't do, however, is fix a broken diet. If you're eating for healthy fat loss, the way Krissy Kendall, Ph.D., explains in the comprehensive guide "How to Lose Weight," then a thermogenic fat burner can help with the other stuff: boosting energy, helping to curb appetite, promoting fat to be used for energy, and even increasing your metabolism and core temperature—what is known as "thermogenesis"—so you burn more calories throughout the day.
Thank you so much for sharing this again! I am getting married in a little over a year and this past weekend I bought my dress. I knew I wasn’t going to be jumping on the fitness and diet train for my engagement but once I was dress shopping I could hear all the voices in my head pushing me to try and change my body. It’s difficult in the moment but I try to think of the big picture and like you said I want to look back and recognize myself in the photos and remember the good times not remember dieting and pushing myself. It’s so nice to hear someone else speaking about NOT wanting to change their body for their big day because I feel like I’m in the minority!
As I began to take control of my body, I also began to take control of my life. I found that the more positive I was about myself, the more positive I was about my life. I also was able to identify areas that were negatively impacting me. This empowerment gave me the courage to make changes and let go of those influences that were negatively affecting me. This was somewhat of an ‘aha’ process for me – the understanding that I was in control of all aspects of my life. This was the feeling that I had been looking for and I had finally found it and the understanding that it had always been there. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tp4EvMoeYq0
"With all the different tips out there, it can be tricky to understand exactly which exercises work the best. HIIT is great for fat burning and will get your heart rate up, but I’d also recommend including strength (resistance) exercises too. Try lifting weights, using resistance bands or using the weight machines at the gym as these will increase your metabolism to help with weight loss, and increase your muscle strength. It’s important to mix-up your whole-body workouts so you don’t get bored."
The short answer is, not much. But changes can and do occur. A carb is still a carb, but you may need to adjust a few things in order to compensate for things like a lessened recovery ability and metabolic rate. The good news is, you aren’t the average sedentary Joe. The fact that you train and eat right will go miles toward keeping you on the right side of the curve for your age. Supplement companies all clamor to sell you products promising a healthier, more youthful existence. But the reality is that nothing will affect your overall health and wellbeing more than proper eating and exercise. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7YFehC_Q27Q
4. You have enough to stress about. As anyone who's ever gotten married will tell you: Wedding planning is a pain in the ass. If seating arrangements, bridesmaid drama, and honeymoon planning don't put you over the edge, calorie-counting almost definitely will. And stress hormones, which muster up killer cravings for rich comfort foods, can make it extra difficult to stick to a diet.
Q: I have more than a year to go before marrying my amazing fiancé, but I recently went bridal shopping and bought my dream dress—a silk crepe fit and flare that shows off my curvy, hourglass shape. The problem? I’ve struggled with negative body image in the past, and while I’ve gotten comfortable with the extra pounds over the last few years, I’d like to focus on eating healthier and toning up to look and feel my best on the “biggest day of our lives.” I just can’t get over feeling like I’m succumbing to the patriarchy and constant pressure to be smaller. I’m setting realistic expectations for myself and want to achieve my modest goals in a healthy way, but I feel like I should just be happy with the way my body looks, however it looks. Is it anti-feminist to set a weight-loss goal for my wedding?
IdealLean Fat Burner provides just enough natural caffeine (from green coffee bean and green tea extract) to give you just the boost you need in your day, but not so much you feel jittery. I love taking it in the mornings, I’m pretty sensitive to caffeine, but IdealLean fat burner gives me just enough energy to feel focused and awake but not so much I’m bouncing off the walls.
63 and still have abs. I tweaked my diet and exercise with the “Primal Blueprint” when it first came out, but it seems my beautiful wife and I have been eating the “Perfect Health Diet” for quite some time and didn’t have to remove much of note to do Kresser’s 30 day reset… except for ‘white’ potatoes, my go to safe starch. I seem to have been eating a 60% fat diet for years. I step on the scales daily to make sure I keep my 65 kgs… easy to lose at my age. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfsbaFdK02s
Being over 40 doesn't automatically mean that you now have to cut out certain foods to get (or stay) slim—unless you know deep down that a food is truly getting in the way of your goals. "If having a square of chocolate leads to eating an entire bag of chocolate, having a square of chocolate does not work for you," Cederquist says. (Regain control with these 6 tips to stop overeating.)

And one last thing, just because I see so much of myself in this question: it sounds like you’re trying to tie up your pre-wedding feelings into a neat little bow. You want to lose weight, and you want to be happy with your body, and you want to feel like a good feminist, and you want it all to happen before your wedding. That is a lot of pressure to put on yourself, and I’m worried about what’s going to happen a year from now if you feel like you haven’t been able to do All The Things with your physical and mental health. So try not to beat yourself up, okay? Don’t let your wedding date become a deadline for perfection. And in the meantime, give up the idea that any of the things you’re thinking about are Good or Bad. If you can remove that value system from the things you want, you will probably find an answer to your question that weighs less heavily on your conscience.
12. It can seriously ruin your honeymoon — and set you up for health issues when you become a wife. When you cut back on calories for an extended period of time, your metabolism slows down and burns fewer calories. The second you break your crazy-low calorie diet (from the first bite of wedding cake to the last margarita on your honeymoon), you'll gain back the weight you lost pretty quickly, which can be pretty upsetting for a newlywed who's been fixated on weight loss for months. And rapid weight gain is unhealthy no matter what your marital status.
Fiber is a type of carbohydrate that your body can't digest, and it helps regulate the body's use of sugar as it slowly passes through your digestive system. Increasing your daily fiber intake can result in greater satisfaction after meals, less blood-sugar spiking and crashing, and subsequent reductions in the amount of calories eaten for the rest of the day. When trying to trim belly fat, aim to get at least 25 grams of fiber in your diet each day. Foods that are rich in fiber include pulses, like lentils and beans; apples and pears, with the skin; nuts and seeds; and cruciferous vegetables like broccoli and Brussels sprouts. Try this recipe for Tabbouleh with Chickpeas for a fiber-packed side dish or a one-dish dinner!
Every week over the past several months, a new volunteer has checked into the “metabolic ward” at the Pennington Biomedical Research Center in Baton Rouge, Louisiana. Each person stays for a total of 24 days in the inpatient unit. He or she is fed meals that are carefully prepared and meticulously measured down to the calorie so that the daily total caloric consumption will be less than what his or her body burns, resulting in weight loss. How much is the question.
There are different types of HIIT but an easy one to begin with is to simply warm up for 3 minutes on an elliptical machine or by walking.  Then work out for 30 seconds so that at the end of the exercise you feel satisfied.  Reduce the speed to slow down to a moderate pace.  Do this 7 more times or for total 8 intervals. Start with one interval and as your body is ready to take more increase the intervals.  Studies show that HIIT to be the absolute premier cardio for weight loss and optimal health as compared to longer, traditional cardio.
But in the two years since they exchanged vows, Lee says, she and her husband, Wayne, have managed to maintain a healthy lifestyle, despite constant temptation from the homework she did while studying at the French Culinary Institute in New York. Lee recently completed the culinary arts program at the cooking school and says her training has helped, rather than hindered, their efforts to maintain trim, post-wedding waistlines.
Some of the greatest life stressors, including kids in their teens, aging parents, financial independence and increased work responsibilities, hit around age 40. Learn to manage the increased pressure; when you let it get to you, it shows up as extra abdominal fat. You may eat more to alleviate anxiety, have little time to prepare healthy meals and produce more of the hormone cortisol, which encourages the body to store and hold onto belly fat.
A little action between the sheets can mean a lot less weight on the scale. Not only is sex a great stress reliever, helping to lower the amount of belly fat-storage hormone cortisol in your bloodstream, but the results of a study published in Breast Cancer Research suggest that even moderate weight loss can help postmenopausal woman achieve a more favorable hormonal balance, making it easier to get in the mood. Fortunately, kicking the foods that kill your sex drive off your menu will have your libido soaring in no time.
Instead of subjecting yourself to another endless workout, crank up the intensity and you’ll see results faster than you ever thought possible. The results of a study conducted at McMaster University in Ontario reveal that adult male study subjects who exercised intensely for a single minute had equivalent respiratory and metabolic changes to those who worked out at a slower pace for close to an hour, so if you want to burn through that belly fat, say so long to slow and steady. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqOK2hsCKRM
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